tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-298665992024-03-07T13:28:09.550-05:00Puzzle PiecesPutting it all togetherJenniferhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17978824563535846688noreply@blogger.comBlogger88125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29866599.post-50048936385882191262011-03-21T06:30:00.000-05:002011-03-21T06:30:45.079-05:00A Fresh StartIn honor of the first day of spring, I am starting fresh with this blogging thing. I really love blogging. The problem is, I spend so much time loving other people's blogging that I forget to leave time for my own. So, in keeping with the optimism that spring always lures me into, I decided to recommit. You can find me now at my <a href="http://countrymousepad.blogspot.com/">new home</a>.Jenniferhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17978824563535846688noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29866599.post-66240778095775804282011-01-12T14:20:00.000-05:002011-01-12T14:20:00.998-05:00The Anatomy of a Homeschool Snow DayI'm such a mean mother that I tend to make my children do schoolwork even on their sick days, so you can bet that I don't let them off the hook just because it snows. Actually, I don't always make them do work when they're sick, but I do try to get them through some material if they aren't feeling too rotten. That said, there is still something about a good substantial snowfall that calls for bending the rules a little.<br />
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7:30 - Sleeping in is one of the first concessions to the weather. Starting late is no big deal, especially after getting a phone call at five in the morning from John's work, telling him to not come in before noon.<br />
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9:30 - Sitting snug on Mom and Dad's bed, watching the snow blowing around out the window, Carter and I discuss run-on sentences while Austin does a little Rosetta Stone French.<br />
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10:15 - We watch the bird feeding frenzy around the four stations of the bird seed taste test experiment we set up for Austin's ornithology course. Highlights include two blue jays sparring over the suet and a bald eagle flying over.<br />
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11-12 - We get down to honest to goodness schoolwork. We're even in the classroom!<br />
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12:00 - Lunch accompanied by a lively discussion about which Pixar characters we are each most like when we lose our tempers.<br />
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1:30 - Austin finishes up geometry while Carter suits up and heads out in the snow with Grandpop (I highly recommend everyone have grandparents as neighbors).<br />
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Next on the agenda is reading an excerpt from Moby Dick, a group dance-off Wii-style, and shuffling around the schedule to accommodate the lessons we missed (of which there are only two!). I love my life.Jenniferhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17978824563535846688noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29866599.post-22528301912770256062011-01-08T16:23:00.000-05:002011-01-08T16:23:56.004-05:00Retiring, Routines, and ResolutionsI love resolution-making. For me, it adds a freshness to the post-Christmas doldrums that tend to set in. There's so much optimism in the act of setting a goal. This year, as I look forward to a year of big life changes, that goal-setting seems even more important somehow. After 19 years of wedded bliss, based on my husband working outside the home and me working in it, he is retiring and coming to set up permanent residence in my space. Overall, I think it's going to be great. But the little voice in the back of my head has begun to point out areas of potential difficulty in our new arrangement. I have 6 months to prepare, so my goals this year are all aimed at increasing the efficiency of our household, tightening up our budget, and strengthening the personal relationships in our family. I realize I can't tackle all this in one massive January launch, so I'm spreading things out, hoping that injecting a little goal-setting into our lives each month will keep things energized.<br />
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For January, I'm not tackling anything so out of the ordinary for myself. Every January I create a new budget for the year and review our daily routines--specifically in the areas of homeschooling and household chores--for any tweaking that might need to be done. This year is no different. Budgeting is easy. I've been making a budget every year almost since the beginning of my married life. Since putting all our finances on the computer, it's been even easier. If you don't have some type of money managing software, I can't recommend it too highly. It's easy to learn and so very convenient.<br />
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Household chores are another beast, though. I have tried many cleaning schemes, schedules, and plans, combined with a wide variety of chore charts and allowance systems aimed at getting my children to be more involved in the process. I have had periods of improvement in this area, but I generally find myself sliding back into my old, unsuccessful patterns. This year, I am trying out yet another new scheme, made up of pieces of other approaches I have either tried or read about. I hope to have it up and running next week. We'll see how that goes.Jenniferhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17978824563535846688noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29866599.post-73521813202320717392011-01-03T17:01:00.000-05:002011-01-03T17:01:53.859-05:00Coming CleanOne of the blogs I frequent is written by a woman whose little girl died two and half years ago. I was introduced to her blog by the friend of a friend and found the brave way she told her story and continued to live her life after such tragedy to be so compelling that I began reading her on a regular basis. Last week she wrote a post that was so poignant I haven't been able to get it out of my head. Her honesty struck a real chord with me and took me back to the days when my oldest son was diagnosed with autism--thirteen years ago this month.<br />
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Autism is like a death in some ways. I remember the time I spent watching my sleeping little boy, crying over the loss of the life I dreamed he would have. I did a lot of grieving in those days. At an age when most children are opening up and their lucky parents are getting to know them more and more, our son was retreating farther away from us. He wouldn't talk to us or look at us. He wouldn't hug and kiss us. It was years before he could bring himself to say "Mom" or "Dad". And while the years that have passed since then have been full of many victories, I wanted to let you know that I still grieve.<br />
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I have heard many parents of special needs children vow that they wouldn't change a thing about their children. In an effort to push societal acceptance, it has become trendy to declare that disabilities do not need a "cure". Let me just say that I would love a cure for my son. I do not relish the suffering and isolation that he must endure and it is the dearest wish of my heart for all the obstacles in his path to be removed. I know that our family has been blessed by the trials this has brought into our life; I don't sit around wallowing in self pity. However, I have had moments where resentment has washed over me. Mostly I focus my anger at my son's disease, but I've also leveled it at innocent women whose only crimes have been to produce non-autistic offspring.<br />
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So, to all of you women out there who fall into that category, I'm sorry if I sometimes hate you. I'm sorry if I'm not sympathetic when it comes to the challenges you face in raising your children because I'm too busy thinking that I have it harder than you. I'm sorry if I don't show enough appreciation for the support you show my son when it doesn't come in the form I think it should. I'm sorry for sometimes blaming you for not understanding how it feels to be me.<br />
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The vast majority of the time, I don't feel those feelings. I certainly feel them less these days than I did when my grief was new. I just want you and all the mothers that are parenting special needs children to know that my grief is still there, despite all my progress in coming to terms with it. I also want you to know--and this is the most important thing my grief has taught me--to celebrate the little normalcies of your children. They may seem as automatic as breathing, but they are truly miraculous.Jenniferhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17978824563535846688noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29866599.post-75007851574110817522010-11-01T18:35:00.001-05:002010-11-01T18:38:15.805-05:00Vote as if Your Life Depended on ItIn June of 2008, an elderly man was struck by a car while crossing the street, sustaining life threatening injuries. The driver did not stop. The other drivers drove around him, but kept going. The pedestrians nearby looked, but kept walking. No one came to his aid until a police officer, responding to another call, happened to come upon him. The man later died. One interviewed bystander explained the lack of action as an unwillingness to commit to involvement in the situation. In other words, no one wanted to take on the inconvenience of stepping in. <br />
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In the television show, “What Would You Do?”, scenarios are acted out before a hidden camera to capture how ordinary people will react when confronted with various ethical dilemmas. From witnessing the suspected theft of a car to seeing someone attacked, the program aims to reveal whether or not people are willing to get involved when they see a need. Many continue to step in and speak up, but a disappointing number will turn away like the pedestrians at the accident. It is simply too uncomfortable, perhaps, to confront a stranger and too easy to believe that someone else will take care of it. <br />
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We have gradually, but steadily become a society that abdicates the responsibility for solving problems to the government. We have begun to believe the government should stop people from losing their homes to foreclosure, provide income to those who are out of work, force restaurants to serve healthier food, pay for healthcare, and meet all sorts of other needs that used to be universally considered the obligations of the individual citizens. Our silent acceptance of this system is costing us our freedom. Liberty and responsibility go hand in hand. Once we allow the government to become our parent, we cannot avoid becoming children to it. And, just as our children are subject to us to decide what is in their best interest, we will soon be unable to avoid being subject to our so-called elected representatives.<br />
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If you think this can’t or won’t happen, simply consider the culture that has arisen around the career politician. The fact is, the very integrity of our governing bodies demands that even the best and most beloved of our elected officials ought not remain in office indefinitely. Your representatives may speak for you, but do they really represent you? Or are they actually trained professional participants in a process that has become more about manipulating the electorate than representing it? Gone are the days of the citizen politician, pressed into service by his or her fellows. They are being replaced with candidates groomed by strategists, playing a game of backroom deals, insider jargon, and a whole host of techniques aimed at keeping themselves in power and perpetually removed from the common folk. <br />
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And what do we do? Too often, we mutter under our breath, but ultimately accept our fate, believing the government-endorsed position that one individual cannot make a difference. As angry as I am at the abuse of power I see within our government, I have been vastly more frustrated at the apathetic complacency I find among many of my fellow citizens. Like the witnesses to that shameful hit-and-run accident, we see the wrong doing and walk away, hoping someone else will take care of it.<br />
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It is time for us all to wake up out of this self-destructive stupor and realize that, yes, someone else will take care of it. If you do not exercise your power as a citizen, someone else will seize that power. You are free to buy into the program the government is selling, but you must realize that the cost will ultimately be your own freedom.<br />
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As election day approaches, I urge you to wake up and take back the power that belongs to you--the power to choose your government. You are not just one individual. You are one of many. Yours may be the one voice that makes the message just loud enough to be heard.Jenniferhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17978824563535846688noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29866599.post-51542844577732386502010-09-08T21:37:00.000-05:002010-09-08T21:37:12.041-05:00BathtimeI took a bath with Oliver tonight, which gave me the opportunity to learn three important things:<br />
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1. I need to exercise. Let's just say I think the appeal of bubble baths and jacuzzi tubs lies in how much of the human form they conceal. A shallow tub with a 12-month-old is not nearly as forgiving and quickly erases any illusions of sveltness to which one may have been erroneously clinging.<br />
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2. I need to utilize a little more creativity in my parenting. As any mother of a young child knows, finding time to bathe/shower oneself is not always easy. It sometimes seems downright impossible. And yet I always manage to bathe the little one. Jumping into the bath with him not only provided him with great amusement, it rescued me from the misery of a showerless day.<br />
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3. Babies are heart-wrenchingly cute--especially when they're wet. Alright, I already knew this one, but some lessons are worth repeating.Jenniferhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17978824563535846688noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29866599.post-88724565012260503932010-08-30T15:51:00.000-05:002010-08-30T15:51:10.564-05:00First Day of SchoolI love homeschooling. I never thought this would be my life, but I'm so glad that circumstances have steered me into this course. I love that the first day of school means something totally different to me than many other moms. And I love that I get to participate in that back-to-school fun of tackling new subjects and new books right alongside my children.<br />
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Oliver did his part to start us off on the right foot by sleeping through the night--from 9 to 6. He even tacked on a bonus hour after that, just for good measure. For the record, that is the longest stretch he has ever slept in his life. I did my part by rustling up some good farm-girl grub.<br />
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">Eggs from our own chickens, bacon from our friends' hog, and homemade donuts.</td></tr>
</tbody></table>Then it was time for back-to-school presents! I am sad to say that my children have not inherited my innate love for all back-to-school supplies. However, by the time Carter got to the bendable ruler, he started to spark up a little enthusiasm. And Austin was most pleased with his ornithology field journal.<br />
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">*sigh*</td></tr>
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">"Oh, cool!"</td></tr>
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">The wireless mouse was a winner.</td></tr>
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">Austin with his field journal.</td></tr>
</tbody></table> We had our usual obstacles to overcome. I had to hastily install a few software upgrades to get Biology working for Carter and our internet connection went out at one inopportune moment, but we managed to roll with it all just fine.<br />
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">Online lessons are the best</td></tr>
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">Lounging on the couch with an African folktale</td></tr>
</tbody></table> Oliver has been as cooperative as one could expect a 12-month-old to be. He enjoyed flinging dry erase markers and CDs around the room and spying on one of Austin's online lessons. Overall, the day took much longer than it should have, but I am trying not to sweat the schedule thing. I can get overly worked up about time tables and deadlines. Really, as long as the boys are working steadily and staying engaged with their learning, I should not get my stomach in a knot over whether we finish at 2 or 4:30. <br />
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Throughout my pregnancy I went through many emotions, most of them negative and motivated by selfishness. With my then youngest just turning 9, I felt depressed at the idea of starting over with the demands of an infant. I was convinced the lives of my older children were ruined, because so much of our family's focus was going to have to shift to accommodating the many needs of a little one. Once I worked through that, I began to wrestle with the nagging fear that something would be wrong with the baby. I knew there must be a reason for us to be having a child at this point in our lives. The small part of me that wanted to be optimistic latched on to the belief that we were to be blessed with a daughter--something John and I both hoped for. When the ultrasound proved otherwise (I was so angry with the ultrasound tech for pronouncing the baby a boy that I wanted to punch him--as if it was all his fault) I became increasingly convinced that this baby was being sent as a trial for us. The closer my due date grew, the more I pored over every ultrasound image, looking for some defect, in a panic that something even worse than autism was in the cards for us. There were moments when I was able to set that all aside and allow myself to feel happy anticipation, but I was so afraid to get my hopes up, feeling that I would just be that much more devastated in the end. My midwife actually told me that she thought I was subconsciously blocking my body from going into labor because of my fears.<br />
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But then the fateful day arrived. Even then, my body resisted full blown labor; starting and stopping through the day until they threatened pitocin. Less than an hour later, my Oliver was born, dazzling me with his blond-haired, cherubic perfection. I examined him thoroughly; there was simply nothing to cause alarm. All the despair and fears of the previous nine months washed away in an instant and were replaced by the kind of joy only such opposition can create.<br />
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The past year has been amazing. There have been huge challenges to be sure, but even more than that there has been a renewal of my faith in God and my faith in myself. Oliver has brought so much more to our family than I ever feared he would take from it. I can't believe I nearly closed the door on the chance to be a new mother again at this point in my life.<br />
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">It was a race to get them all lit before the letters started to melt</td></tr>
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</tbody></table>Jenniferhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17978824563535846688noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29866599.post-6057071991997970602010-08-19T11:21:00.000-05:002010-08-19T11:21:45.978-05:00What Day Is It?My mother cannot remember Easter Sunday of 2005. She doesn't remember waking up that morning, riding in an ambulance, or spending most of the day in the hospital. She has no idea how scary that day was for my dad and I, as we listened to her repeatedly ask what day it was and where she was. We feared the very worst as doctors ran test after test to determine if she was having a stroke or if there was some other explanation for her bizarre symptoms. She was on vacation, but she didn't remember that either. She had forgotten the past several weeks of her life and couldn't remember anything she was being told. The final diagnosis was transient global amnesia. None of us had ever heard of it. It is a very uncommon condition in which a person temporarily loses the ability to create new memory. Doctors do not know what causes it, though stress seems to be the trigger, especially for women. It is of short duration, harmless, and rarely returns. By that evening, my mother was foggy and tired, but otherwise back to normal. Her memory of the previous days returned, but she is a complete blank with regards to that one day.<br />
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So one week ago today, when I found myself driving my sweet husband to the hospital after finding him standing befuddled in our bedroom, unable to remember what day it was or anything he had done that morning, I had to ask myself, "How could something so uncommon happen to two unrelated people in my immediate family?" The unlikeliness of it frightened me to the point of being physically ill. To say it was disconcerting to have my best friend, the man who is my rock of support in every part of life, be so altered and disconnected, is an enormous understatement. As the more likely suspects were gradually ruled out by a string of tests that ran into the following day, I was able to release the death grip I had clamped down on my emotions. Ironically, it wasn't until he was himself again and back home, that I felt the full trauma of it all.<br />
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I am thankful that lightning can strike twice and that my husband's episode was indeed transient global amnesia and not a stroke or tumor or any of the other scary things the doctors mentioned to me that day. I am also thankful for the mercifully brief, though painful, reminder to not take his presence in my life for granted. I am not thankful that my request that he retire immediately was denied, but you can't have everything.Jenniferhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17978824563535846688noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29866599.post-68523625925945747212010-08-10T22:17:00.000-05:002010-08-10T22:17:27.946-05:00What I Learned On Vacation1. There really are sharks at the Jersey shore.<br />
2. Pizza tastes better on the boardwalk, even when you are eating it while holding a wiggly 11-month-old who is trying to pull all the cheese off with one hand and throw your water bottle with the other.<br />
3. Never get into a hotel hot tub with a hairy male stranger.<br />
4. You cannot hear anything at the Crayola Factory, especially not the very nice man giving a demonstration on how crayons are made. If you are into constant screaming, however, this is the place for you.<br />
5. The National Canal Museum--just upstairs from the Crayola Factory--is much calmer and surprisingly fun.<br />
6. Jim Thorpe, PA, is a gorgeous town--so much so that I am willing to overlook their inability to produce an authentic Philly cheesesteak.<br />
7. Trains rock! There should be more of them.<br />
8. Teenagers like to pick fights at midnight when everyone is trying to sleep.<br />
9. I wish I had a motorhome.<br />
10. Sometimes, hanging out in the hotel room is the most fun thing a family can do.Jenniferhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17978824563535846688noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29866599.post-70053070717252804202010-08-09T14:19:00.000-05:002010-08-09T14:19:28.988-05:00Birds of a Feather<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhbhMBlabZs6ZpXwjdPddAsr6sw8uYW0Tk4Jk_iDyw2rZCEyRsNYSVQzELva8R-nadgKPl7RyEyNFDoXmi1RlOJGseqpWnKDDS2SypPRsUQvMW1RAeAHCS0JGSZ4PpvjmiKIu-n/s1600/August+2010+049+%282%29.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="288" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhbhMBlabZs6ZpXwjdPddAsr6sw8uYW0Tk4Jk_iDyw2rZCEyRsNYSVQzELva8R-nadgKPl7RyEyNFDoXmi1RlOJGseqpWnKDDS2SypPRsUQvMW1RAeAHCS0JGSZ4PpvjmiKIu-n/s400/August+2010+049+%282%29.jpg" width="400" /></a></div>I won't bore everyone with a detailed recap of our family's duck saga. Suffice it to say that we got four ducklings just over 3 years ago (it seems like much longer), have had many, many duck descendants pass through our world, and are left with just one. He is one of the original four, so I'm thinking he must have some type of duck super powers to have survived the deadly elements around here. He has gotten much more people friendly since the demise of his last duck companion. Sometimes I think he has been a little too friendly. I did not enjoy, for instance, the morning I came out on the porch to discover him sitting right outside my door beside a pile of ducky delight. Ugh! Anyway, we worried a little over him--concerned that he would not be happy without companionship within his own species. But he seemed to get by just fine between following us around and visiting the chicken coop.<br />
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Then, about a month ago, a juvenile guinea hen wandered up into our yard. We have no idea where she came from. She was too small to put in with the chickens, so we stuck her in the duck pen. We've just started letting her out the past few days. At first, she stayed very close to the pen, but today she decided she was safe enough to venture out and about the place. We're getting a kick out of her funny little sounds and seeing her wander through the trees and bushes. And it looks like our duck got a friend out of the bargain too.Jenniferhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17978824563535846688noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29866599.post-12608390665883669792010-08-02T21:10:00.000-05:002010-08-02T21:10:56.440-05:00This Vacation's Got TeethI'm blogging from Ocean City, New Jersey. My mom would argue that, by mentioning this, I'm alerting the world at large to the fact that I'm not at home, thereby issuing an open invitation to any would-be robbers out there. For all those criminal elements who might be planning a heist, all I ask is that you take some gerbils with you when you go.<br />
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Traveling with a baby is always challenging. There are extra packing needs, nap schedules to consider, safety issues, etc. For example, when you take your baby to the beach, be sure to watch out for sharks that may come ashore. Sharks can not tell the difference between a baby and a seal. If you do see a shark, it's a good idea to get a picture--for insurance purposes.<br />
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Okay, this one probably wouldn't eat a baby, but I bet it would bite one. This was the second one we saw. They just swam right up onto the beach. And I thought the jellyfish were intimidating! It made walking in the surf a little bit more of an adrenaline rush than usual.<br />
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We're heading to the Poconos tomorrow, so maybe it will be bear encounters next.Jenniferhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17978824563535846688noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29866599.post-78653078474497688962010-07-29T14:12:00.000-05:002010-07-29T14:12:03.189-05:00One HandedSince Oliver was born, I have had the chance to remember just how much hands-on time babies require. Particularly in the beginning of his life, when I was spending about half my time each day nursing, I had to quickly learn how to do as many things as possible with one hand. I just as quickly learned how to appreciate those moments when I could have both hands to myself again. What a relief it was to use two hands to type an email, fold some laundry, prepare a meal, or clean the house! And how wonderful when Oliver started to get to the point of being able to entertain himself more (and nurse less), so that I could have those two hands with greater frequency. <br />
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Even now, with Oliver finding more joy in playing with toys and practicing his cruising skills, I often feel that there is so much more to get done than there is time to do it. I still feel the need to one-hand it during the times when he needs to be held or fed. We women, after all, are ever-so-proud of our ability to multitask. So I'll steal my attention away and use my free hand to balance the checkbook, check my email, or tidy up.<br />
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But today I found myself sitting on my couch, laptop in tempting reach, with Oliver snuggled up sleeping with his head on my shoulder. I considered snagging some one-handed internet time or, better yet, scooting the napper into his crib for some full-fledged two-handedness. That's when it occurred to me that I ought to spend more time devoting both hands to my baby. And not just for his sake, but for mine. He's speeding so quickly through his babyhood, while all that other stuff will still be there tomorrow, next week, or next year.<br />
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I'm happy to say that I stayed put, both arms wrapped around my sweet boy, soaking in the feel and smell of him.<br />
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I love my life.Jenniferhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17978824563535846688noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29866599.post-34602352727747680692010-07-28T13:29:00.000-05:002010-07-28T13:29:36.940-05:00SummertimeMy little summer baby is 11 months old today. One more month until the heart-tugging one year mark. Having a baby around in the hot summer weather is wonderful. Those little cherubic bodies are not meant to be covered up with so much clothing. There's nothing quite like the sight of roly-poly baby flesh and he enjoys being unencumbered by long sleeves and pants as much as I enjoy having such ready access to his kissable skin.<br />
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I was never that much of a summer fan as a child. The heat was too off-putting for me (we didn't have air-conditioning in the house) and I never found much enjoyment at the traditional summer hangouts like the pool and the beach (couldn't--still can't--swim). All the stinging and biting insects were also a big source of anxiety for me.<br />
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But circumstances have certainly changed my perspective on the season. I'd have to say it began around the time John got his current job teaching at the community college. Not only did he go from erratic, unpredictable hours where he worked half of all the major holidays, to a fairly regular schedule with all holidays off, but he was suddenly off for two months each summer. Two months off! With pay! I still pinch myself and he's had this job for 12 years. Having our whole family together every day for that kind of a stretch is a powerfully positive thing. And it has achieved the miracle of making me love summer. I love every scorching degree of it. My air conditioner might have something to do with that part.<br />
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Now, if you'll excuse me, I'm going to go kiss a baby.<br />
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To those of you who read my blog only on Facebook, I wish to point out all the nice bloggerly features you are missing, as well as give all of you a brief tour of the sidebar. There are a few new buttons over there:<br />
<ol><li><b>Latter-Day Homeschooling</b> - This is a great site for moms, even if you are not LDS and even if you do not homeschool. It has tons of great resources to help with organization, enrichment, home management, and, of course, education.</li>
<li><b>Homeschool Buyers Co-op</b> - This is another great site for parents whether they homeschool or not. It's free to join and has great deals on curriculum products all the way from full-blown homeschooling courses down to products that you can use to help your public school child. There's also a great section on field trips that makes for a great go-to guide for outings.</li>
<li><b>CJane</b> is my new favorite imaginary friend. I love her blog. Her writing style makes you feel like you're having a chat with a friend and her take on things is always refreshing. Check her out.</li>
</ol>Elsewhere in the margin are the items that are basically self-explanatory. My top five list is my effort to keep my inner Pollyanna going strong. You can also take a peek at what I'm reading at the moment or visit one of my favorite blogs or links.<br />
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Once again, thanks for reading--it's ever so gratifying--and anytime one of you Facebook fiends wants to have the full bells and whistles experience, you can come <a href="http://solvethepuzzle.blogspot.com/">here</a>.Jenniferhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17978824563535846688noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29866599.post-17628961323988903042010-07-19T10:28:00.001-05:002010-07-19T10:31:28.473-05:00Losing ItI live in a house of boys. My husband, my three children, even my dog is a boy. And for the purpose of this post, I'm going to lump my father in to this group. And you know what? None of them can find anything! Is this a phenomenon unique to my world or is this a universal male flaw? Even when I tell them where to look for something they can't find it. We were getting ready to leave for a road trip and my middle son wanted to bring his Nintendo DS. He asked where his charger was and I told him it was in the storage basket in the car. I should give him credit here that he not only planned ahead by thinking to bring a charger, but he also dashed off to double check that it was in the car before we left. Unfortunately, a few minutes later he was back in the house telling me that the charger was not there. I proceeded to spend precious minutes looking through the house for the charger, to no avail. During the search, my father stopped by our house to use our phone. He does this when he needs to make a long distance call, because we have free long distance on our plan and he doesn't. Mostly I think he likes the excuse to pop in and see his grandsons. I had been out for a walk with the wee one that morning and had taken the phone with me, so when I saw that it was missing from its usual spot I told him I must have left it outside in the stroller. He went out to look and came back, declaring it was not there. I had to trek all the way upstairs (okay, I'm whining here--my house is not really that big) to get him a phone. Then, my husband asks for the baby's jacket, in case we need it in some overly air-conditioned stop on our journey. I told him it was already in the car. Like my son, he diligently goes off to double check (or should I suspect that they're actually doubting me at this point?) with similar results. So it's back upstairs for me to grab a sweater from the baby's room.<br />
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At last we are ready to head out. On my way to the car I stopped by the stroller and collected the phone. Ahem! Then, situated in the car, I reach into the aforementioned basket and pull out the DS charger. Ahem! About a mile down the road I look behind my seat in the baby zone and discover the baby's jacket. Ahem! Seriously! Are all men this way? I told my husband the only reason Eve was the first to eat the forbidden fruit was that Adam probably couldn't find it and needed her to bring it to him.<br />
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I don't think he appreciated my theological insight.Jenniferhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17978824563535846688noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29866599.post-7690591490304748262010-07-17T14:02:00.001-05:002010-07-17T16:04:37.504-05:00Mourn With Those That MournIn the past week I have felt the impact of the deaths of two people--one I know and one I have never met.<br />
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The first is a gentleman who attended my church. He was a kind man who lived a good life. He was diagnosed with cancer and, though he fought a good fight, his illness was too aggressive to be beaten. His wife spoke at his funeral and demonstrated a faith and strength that will serve her well as she moves through her grief to continue with her own life. She and I are not close, though I have known her for some time. In situations like these, it is often hard to know how to be of assistance; how to lessen the burden of the grieving. But, as I sat in attendance at her husband's funeral and played the organ for the service, I felt impressed that all of us there were helping to lift her burden simply by surrounding her in her time of need.<br />
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The second death was that of a little girl named <a href="http://patrickandashley.blogspot.com/">Preslee Sullenger</a>. Just 18 months old, her blue eyes, blond hair, and sweet demeanor put me in mind of my own baby the first time I saw her picture. Though I only came to know of her a week ago through a network of internet acquaintances, I feel as devastated by her tragic death as if she were a part of my own family. As word spread through cyberspace of her accident and her fight to survive, a veritable army of support rose up around this family. I found myself one of thousands praying fervently for a miracle, as it became clear that the odds were stacked against Preslee. And now, after her passing yesterday, I can do nothing more than add my tears and anguish to those of so many united strangers, hoping that we can somehow lessen the burden of two broken-hearted parents by our willingness to mourn with them.<br />
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Having a heart open to sharing the pain of another deepens our connection to each other and allows us to experience the transformative influence of even total strangers. And perhaps, when there are no right words or gestures, it is ultimately the best gift we can share.Jenniferhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17978824563535846688noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29866599.post-76670280188958293782010-07-15T13:36:00.001-05:002010-07-15T15:55:26.027-05:00GratitudeLast night was tough. My hubby was out, and I was holding down the homefront with my 10-year-old and 10-month-old. As the baby was finishing a yummy meal of chicken, sweet potatoes, and rice (baby food style), he decided the time had come to make maximum use of his diaper. I waited politely for him to finish. When it seemed he was going to take a little while, I put him down on the floor to give him a little private moment (okay, it was really so I could check my email). He crawled around busily for a minute or two, then proceed to spew his meal all over hardwood floor and braided rug and himself. I picked him up--naturally--which meant that I was now covered in it, too. So there I was with a baby in need of both a diaper change and a hosing off in addition to a serious mess on the floor. Ugh! I will spare you the details of how I navigated the clean up effort and will simply say that we made it through relatively intact.<br />
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So, cleanup accomplished, bath given, I plunked a happy naked baby into his crib, grabbed his diaper, and turned to discover a puddle in the crib. Baby happy, bedding soaked, mommy frustrated. While rushing around to tackle the newly arisen laundry chore, I tripped over some toys and cut my toe. Oh, and I forgot to mention the wasp that started buzzing around my head while I was scrubbing spit up baby food out of the threads of my rug.<br />
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As I said, it was a tough evening. But later, as I was wrestling the freshly washed bedding onto the crib mattress, and feeling very tired, I was grateful. Grateful because of the story that has been haunting me all week of little 18-month-old Preslee Sullenger, who fell into an irrigation canal last Friday and drowned, only to be resuscitated by a farmer who pulled her out 2 miles from where she fell in. She's currently fighting for her life. You can follow her story <a href="http://patrickandashley.blogspot.com/">here</a>.<br />
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Life is so fragile. Just two days ago, my little baby tumbled down a short flight of stairs and emerged with barely a scratch. But the outcome could have been so different. As Preslee's dad said on their blog, everything can go from fine to a nightmare in an instant. So hug your babies, no matter how old they are, and be grateful they're around to make your life difficult.Jenniferhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17978824563535846688noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29866599.post-65402092532199111732010-07-07T19:20:00.000-05:002010-07-07T19:20:28.182-05:00A Good BabyHave you noticed how parents of little babies will always say, "He's/she's such a good baby!" What does this mean, exactly? I've never heard a parent describe a baby as "bad". "What a bad baby he is!" "She may be cute, but she's just bad!" So what makes a baby good? Is a baby good if he sleeps through the night, is a good eater, almost never cries? Or is he good if he makes you fall so head over heels in love with him that spotting his big wide awake blue eyes in the painfully wee hours of the morning makes you wish you could give up sleep entirely just so you could stare at him?<br />
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Anyway, I finished up in the kitchen, loaded our stuff in the car, and proceeded to dump a container of milk into the van. What a lovely moment that was! I handled it with great poise and maturity, hurling the container into a tree. The cookout was fun, though, and we capped it off by playing glowstick tag, setting off Carter's hydrogen rocket, and enjoying the natural fireworks of the fireflies.<br />
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So after all of these festivities and dramas, what image do you think was dancing before my closed eyes when I went to bed last night? That's right--bean picking! There I was, lying in my comfy bed, and all I could see were bean plants. I think I just might be suffering from gardening overload.<br />
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We were working in the garden Friday morning. As you can imagine, our children do not usually embrace this activity and can be somewhat reluctant to leave the house when invited to pick vegetables. Being told they get to eat them is not much of a motivator, either. So after some more traditional parental persuasion, Austin and I had the following conversation:<br />
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Austin: I'm exaggerated!<br />
Me: I don't think that's the right word.<br />
Austin (very grumpily): Yes it is!<br />
Me: What's exaggerated mean?<br />
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Austin: I don't know.<br />
Me: I think you mean exasperated.<br />
*pause* <br />
Austin: Yes.<br />
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This exchange was followed by my husband and I sharing many examples of exaggeration that were so entertaining, my son was actually glad to be picking beans with us. Okay, I'm exaggerating.<br />
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What I love most about these conversations is that they are so ordinary. It has taken my son many years to achieve ordinary conversation. The fact that he would now rather make the effort to construct original thought than fall back on his old scripting method of speaking (in which he would recite whatever line from a book or movie seemed most applicable to the moment) makes even his grumpiness music to my ears.<br />
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The best one came the next day, though. Austin had taken a bad tumble in our driveway and was covered in nasty cuts and scrapes. I was giving him advice on how to best care for his injuries and he said to me, "I know I can trust you, because you are a righteous mother."<br />
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Some days it's just good to be me.Jenniferhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17978824563535846688noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29866599.post-38772105270778510002010-07-02T13:37:00.000-05:002010-07-02T13:37:44.501-05:00I Think, Therefore I AmPaul Simon once sang a song called "Maybe I Think Too Much". I'm quite certain that I do. I tend to over-think and over-analyze things. I don't know if it's just in my nature to do this, or if it is the result of a relatively solitary childhood. Being an only child and growing up amid the seclusion of the rural Delaware woods, I did not evolve a strong sense of community. I was usually on my own, wandering through the trees with my dog and my imagination for company. There is a definite appeal to being left so often to one's own devices, but it does provide an inordinate amount of time for getting lost in thought.<br />
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I wasn't exactly a social being anyway. I wouldn't say I was anti-social, just socially inept. I now realize that there are a lot of people who look back on their teen years with that same assessment. I understand that many of us felt socially awkward during that phase of life. But you know those kids you see in teen movies who get degrading messages taped onto their backs; who are so low in the pecking order that even some of the teachers take shots at them? I was one of those. I was an easy target. My attempts at being stylish repeatedly missed the mark. I was insecure and brainy--a combination that could sometimes be spun as a quirky positive for a boy, but was a real killer for a girl. College only improved my lot a few degrees. I was no longer made fun of, but I was already such a hardened outsider that I lacked the confidence to fully embrace many of the friendship opportunities that came my way.<br />
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My tendency became to value the thinking side of myself at the expense of the other parts. I still find myself falling into the trap of mistaking being admired with being liked. I have begun to suspect that I am simply hopelessly confused when it comes to the fine art of friendship. I see people coming and going around me, making friends with apparent ease, while I continue to see myself as a floundering misfit. To make matters worse, I see my children falling into similar patterns and I am at a loss as to how to advise them.<br />
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So, here is my question to you tolerant readers: What are the elements of successful friendship? Is serendipity the only path to human connection or is there--as I suspect there is--some secret skill set?Jenniferhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17978824563535846688noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29866599.post-27907528690772565632010-06-08T12:54:00.002-05:002010-06-09T22:13:07.436-05:00Stop Blaming the Poor Peanut<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg5K-SjyFKmOXRcW1Ps-zWDE_65-_Fzbwv72IDNowjz_T-lsn9VRR7fOMRQVV-5jCWzIbbH4nq-kyE3QdIJoFEe1xf5hqOI1gFJ4iu36pbqkF767URuvLzyCebVBeQX5rRrXZxM/s1600/peanut.gif" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="200" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg5K-SjyFKmOXRcW1Ps-zWDE_65-_Fzbwv72IDNowjz_T-lsn9VRR7fOMRQVV-5jCWzIbbH4nq-kyE3QdIJoFEe1xf5hqOI1gFJ4iu36pbqkF767URuvLzyCebVBeQX5rRrXZxM/s200/peanut.gif" width="200" /></a></div>You may have heard that peanuts are responsible for more deaths than any other food. Don't believe it. Peanuts are perfectly safe. People eat them all the time and have no problems whatsoever. My husband and I have eaten them our whole lives, and our children eat them, too. Not only have we never once gotten sick from a peanut, we find them to be quite tasty and a healthy source of protein. Why, whenever I have a low blood sugar moment, a spoonful of peanut butter sets me to rights quicker than anything else can. Less than half a percent of people even claim to have this so-called peanut allergy. If you ask me, these individuals were probably sick already and their symptoms have nothing to do with peanuts. The fact that peanut consumption appears to trigger them is most likely coincidental. All this unwarranted negative publicity for the noble peanut could do irreparable harm to the peanut industry, putting farmers out of business and depriving society of a valuable nutritional resource.<br />
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If you think I'm completely, er, nuts, then you'll understand my frustration with the reaction of the medical/scientific community to the suggestion that there might be a link between vaccines and some forms of autism. While I don't believe that vaccines caused my son's autism, I can't rule out the possibility that, due to some genetic flaw or predisposition, they may have been a contributing factor. I have a friend, however, with two sons who disappeared into autism immediately after receiving the MMR vaccine. For people like her, there is no need for a scientific study to prove what she has seen with her own eyes. This is no wild coincidence; this is a definite link.<br />
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This is Dr. Andrew Wakefield, a British gastroenterologist who recently lost his medical license due to the fact that he refused to recant the conclusions of a study he conducted that found vaccine strain measles infection in the intestines of children with autism and bowel disease. You may have heard of him. If you have, you will likely have heard that his findings have never been replicated. This is not true. They have never been replicated in a <i>published</i> study, but they have indeed been replicated by doctors here in the US. Dr. Wakefield has never suggested that parents avoid vaccinating their children--quite the contrary--but he has been blamed for the drop in vaccine rates and a subsequent rise in measles infections among children, particularly in the UK.<br />
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Vaccines are a relatively new intervention when compared to the entire history of medicine. How arrogant to assume that we have it all figured out already; that we can say with such confidence that we know all of the potential effects they will have on the human body. We continue to heap them upon our little ones in alarming quantities, because the vast majority of children seem to have no trouble whatsoever in tolerating the brief assault on their immune systems. But what if, as with the poor maligned peanut, there is a small percentage--less than half a percent--whose bodies do not respond in the typical way? What if the immune system is already misfiring in these individuals in ways that have not yet been detected? Why is it considered sacrilege to suggest that the current vaccine program might not be the right fit for everyone? After all, it is completely unnecessary for 99.5% of the population to avoid peanuts, but for the rest, they are deadly. The CDC's unwillingness to truly investigate this only keeps the question alive for everyone. Research could help to reveal markers that could be screened for to identify which individuals are most susceptible and should be vaccinated by a different schedule, at older ages, with single instead of combination vaccines. This research is not being done. Instead, money is being put into retrospective surveys aimed at demonstrating the lack of a statistical link between vaccines and autism. This is insulting and I feel like I am back in the days of Galileo with scientists being silenced in an attempt to preserve the status quo. <br />
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As I said, I do not believe vaccines caused my son to have autism. However, my husband and I have been a good deal more cautious in approaching the vaccination of his two younger brothers. We are following a different vaccination schedule than the recommended one. I realize this means we are trying to strike a very precarious balance between protecting our children from disease and avoiding potential environmental triggers for developmental delays. However, until the CDC and the American Academy of Pediatrics get behind some real research to address this issue, I have no confidence in their recommendations. Here are the guidelines we follow, developed by Dr. Stephanie Cave (an amazing mother of a child with autism who got tired of being dismissed by medical professionals who told her, "You're not a doctor," so she became one).<br />
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<ul style="font-family: inherit; margin: 0px 0px 0px 40px; padding: 0pt;"><li style="color: black; line-height: 0px;"><span style="color: black; font-size: small;"><span style="line-height: 15px;"> </span></span><span style="color: black; font-size: small;"><span style="line-height: 14px;">Do not vaccinate child if he/she:</span></span><span style="color: black; font-size: small;"><span style="line-height: 14px;"><br />
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<li style="color: black; line-height: 0px;"><span style="color: black; font-size: small;"><span style="line-height: 14px;"> </span></span><span style="color: black; font-size: small;"><span style="line-height: 14px;"> </span></span><span style="color: black; font-size: small;"><span style="line-height: 14px;">had any bad reaction or deterioration in health after previous</span></span><span style="color: black; font-size: small;"><span style="line-height: 14px;"> </span></span><span style="color: black; font-size: small;"><span style="line-height: 14px;">vaccination.</span></span><span style="color: black; font-size: small;"><span style="line-height: 14px;"><br />
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<li style="color: black; line-height: 0px;"><span style="color: black; font-size: small;"><span style="line-height: 14px;"> </span></span><span style="color: black; font-size: small;"><span style="line-height: 14px;"> </span></span><span style="color: black; font-size: small;"><span style="line-height: 14px;">had any past history of immune system disorder, severe</span></span><span style="color: black; font-size: small;"><span style="line-height: 14px;"> allergies, </span></span><span style="color: black; font-size: small;"><span style="line-height: 14px;">convulsions or neurological disorders, vaccine</span></span><span style="color: black; font-size: small;"><span style="line-height: 14px;"> reactions.</span></span><span style="color: black; font-size: small;"><span style="line-height: 14px;"><br />
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<li style="color: black; line-height: 0px;"><span style="color: black; font-size: small;"><span style="line-height: 14px;"> Always ask for single dose, mercury-free (no thimerosal)</span></span><span style="color: black; font-size: small;"><span style="line-height: 14px;"> vaccines.</span></span><span style="color: black; font-size: small;"><span style="line-height: 14px;"><br />
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<li style="color: black; line-height: 0px;"><span style="color: black; font-size: small;"><span style="line-height: 14px;"> Ask for separate vials of measles, mumps, and rubella, and give</span></span><span style="color: black; font-size: small;"><span style="line-height: 14px;"> them </span></span><span style="color: black; font-size: small;"><span style="line-height: 14px;">separately, months apart.</span></span><span style="color: black; font-size: small;"><span style="line-height: 14px;"><br />
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<ul style="font-family: inherit; margin: 0px 0px 0px 40px; padding: 0pt;" type=""><span style="font-size: small;"><b><span style="color: black;"><span style="line-height: 14px;">Recommended vaccine schedule:</span></span></b><b><span style="color: black;"><span style="line-height: 14px;"> </span></span></b></span><span style="color: black; font-size: small;"><span style="line-height: 14px;">(By Stephanie Cave, M.D. - DAN! Practitioner and Vaccine Expert)</span></span><span style="color: black; font-size: small;"><span style="line-height: 14px;"> </span></span></ul><span style="font-family: inherit; font-size: small;"><span style="line-height: 14px;"><br />
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<ul style="font-family: inherit; margin: 0px 0px 0px 40px; padding: 0pt;" type=""><span style="color: black; font-size: small;"><span style="line-height: 14px;">Birth - Hepatitis B only if mom is Hepatitis B Positive;</span></span><span style="color: black; font-size: small;"><span style="line-height: 14px;"> </span></span><span style="color: black; font-size: small;"><span style="line-height: 14px;">otherwise, no vaccine shot.</span></span><span style="color: black; font-size: small;"><span style="line-height: 14px;"> </span></span><span style="color: black; font-size: small;"><span style="line-height: 14px;"> </span></span></ul><ul style="font-family: inherit; margin: 0px 0px 0px 40px; padding: 0pt;" type=""><span style="color: black; font-size: small;"><span style="line-height: 14px;">4 months - Hib, IPV</span></span><span style="color: black; font-size: small;"><span style="line-height: 14px;"> </span></span><span style="color: black; font-size: small;"><span style="line-height: 14px;"> </span></span></ul><ul style="font-family: inherit; margin: 0px 0px 0px 40px; padding: 0pt;" type=""><span style="color: black; font-size: small;"><span style="line-height: 14px;">5 months - DTaP</span></span><span style="color: black; font-size: small;"><span style="line-height: 14px;"> </span></span></ul><ul style="font-family: inherit; margin: 0px 0px 0px 40px; padding: 0pt;" type=""><span style="color: black; font-size: small;"><span style="line-height: 14px;">6 months - Hib, IPV</span></span><span style="color: black; font-size: small;"><span style="line-height: 14px;"> </span></span><span style="color: black; font-size: small;"><span style="line-height: 14px;"> </span></span></ul><ul style="font-family: inherit; margin: 0px 0px 0px 40px; padding: 0pt;" type=""><span style="color: black; font-size: small;"><span style="line-height: 14px;">7 months - DTaP</span></span><span style="color: black; font-size: small;"><span style="line-height: 14px;"> </span></span><span style="color: black; font-size: small;"><span style="line-height: 14px;"> </span></span></ul><ul style="font-family: inherit; margin: 0px 0px 0px 40px; padding: 0pt;" type=""><span style="color: black; font-size: small;"><span style="line-height: 14px;">8 months - Hib</span></span><span style="color: black; font-size: small;"><span style="line-height: 14px;"> </span></span><span style="color: black; font-size: small;"><span style="line-height: 14px;"> </span></span></ul><ul style="font-family: inherit; margin: 0px 0px 0px 40px; padding: 0pt;" type=""><span style="color: black; font-size: small;"><span style="line-height: 14px;">9 months - DTaP</span></span><span style="color: black; font-size: small;"><span style="line-height: 14px;"> </span></span><span style="color: black; font-size: small;"><span style="line-height: 14px;"> </span></span></ul><ul style="font-family: inherit; margin: 0px 0px 0px 40px; padding: 0pt;" type=""><span style="color: black; font-size: small;"><span style="line-height: 14px;">15 months - Measles</span></span><span style="color: black; font-size: small;"><span style="line-height: 14px;"> </span></span><span style="color: black; font-size: small;"><span style="line-height: 14px;"> </span></span></ul><ul style="font-family: inherit; margin: 0px 0px 0px 40px; padding: 0pt;" type=""><span style="color: black; font-size: small;"><span style="line-height: 14px;">17 months - Hib, IPV</span></span><span style="color: black; font-size: small;"><span style="line-height: 14px;"> </span></span><span style="color: black; font-size: small;"><span style="line-height: 14px;"> </span></span></ul><ul style="font-family: inherit; margin: 0px 0px 0px 40px; padding: 0pt;" type=""><span style="color: black; font-size: small;"><span style="line-height: 14px;">18 months - DTaP</span></span><span style="color: black; font-size: small;"><span style="line-height: 14px;"> </span></span><span style="color: black; font-size: small;"><span style="line-height: 14px;"> </span></span></ul><ul style="font-family: inherit; margin: 0px 0px 0px 40px; padding: 0pt;" type=""><span style="color: black; font-size: small;"><span style="line-height: 14px;">24 months - Prevnar (1 dose only)</span></span><span style="color: black; font-size: small;"><span style="line-height: 14px;"> </span></span><span style="color: black; font-size: small;"><span style="line-height: 14px;"> </span></span></ul><ul style="font-family: inherit; margin: 0px 0px 0px 40px; padding: 0pt;" type=""><span style="color: black; font-size: small;"><span style="line-height: 14px;">27 months - Rubella</span></span><span style="color: black; font-size: small;"><span style="line-height: 14px;"> </span></span><span style="color: black; font-size: small;"><span style="line-height: 14px;"> </span></span></ul><ul style="font-family: inherit; margin: 0px 0px 0px 40px; padding: 0pt;" type=""><span style="color: black; font-size: small;"><span style="line-height: 14px;">30 months - Mumps</span></span><span style="color: black; font-size: small;"><span style="line-height: 14px;"> </span></span><span style="color: black; font-size: small;"><span style="line-height: 14px;"> </span></span></ul><ul style="font-family: inherit; margin: 0px 0px 0px 40px; padding: 0pt;" type=""><span style="color: black; font-size: small;"><span style="line-height: 14px;">4 years - Varicella (if not immune already)</span></span><span style="color: black; font-size: small;"><span style="line-height: 14px;"> </span></span><span style="color: black; font-size: small;"><span style="line-height: 14px;"> </span></span></ul><ul style="font-family: inherit; margin: 0px 0px 0px 40px; padding: 0pt;" type=""><span style="color: black; font-size: small;"><span style="line-height: 14px;">4 - 5 years - Hepatitis B series</span></span><span style="color: black; font-size: small;"><span style="line-height: 14px;">,</span></span><span style="color: black; font-size: small;"><span style="line-height: 14px;"> DTaP, IPV boosters</span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-size: small;">; t</span></span><span style="color: black; font-size: small;"><span style="line-height: 14px;">est titers for MMR and do not give unless not</span></span><span style="color: black; font-size: small;"><span style="line-height: 14px;"> </span></span><span style="color: black; 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Immunize only for vaccines found to be negative.</span></span><span style="color: black; font-size: small;"><span style="line-height: 14px;"> </span></span></ul><span style="font-family: inherit; font-size: small;"><span style="line-height: 14px;"><br />
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<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjZQFKUK5pCUgVoHokIWiKR07CxLjWHfkRrRM6Ue372jgpoKB9tXsZotosKh5GbSox8b47EiFd3wHcv6TOntKqrTQsNZ7qrI5M27CeH_kRNXaTEL-xsRZD0UEJm80k3h6VwxiQU/s1600/pillow.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjZQFKUK5pCUgVoHokIWiKR07CxLjWHfkRrRM6Ue372jgpoKB9tXsZotosKh5GbSox8b47EiFd3wHcv6TOntKqrTQsNZ7qrI5M27CeH_kRNXaTEL-xsRZD0UEJm80k3h6VwxiQU/s320/pillow.jpg" /></a></div>Jenniferhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17978824563535846688noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29866599.post-56043124047508453802010-05-12T21:49:00.000-05:002010-05-12T21:49:14.885-05:00Love Me, Love Me, Love Me, I'm a Libertarian!A friend of mine asked about my political beliefs today. I promised her a blog post to attempt to explain them. Comments and questions are welcome, with bonus points for anyone who can identify the reference in my title. <br />
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When I was 18, I registered to vote. I had never been especially politically savvy up to that point, though I believe I had some lofty ideals about how the world should be. My father was registered as a Democrat and my mother as an Independent, so I registered as a Republican to be different from them. I don't remember having any real sense of what that meant, but I was excited to do it.<br />
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I would describe my political views during my college years as moderately liberal. I was what my father called a "tree hugger" and I spent some time as an angry, man-hating feminist. By the time I met my husband, I had a pretty good chip on my shoulder. His ability to defuse me was probably the main thing that drew me to him. He and I also shared anti-establishment inclinations. The year we were married we voted for Ross Perot in the presidential election and harbored the hope that a strong third party would arise to really shake up the system.<br />
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Around that same time, I had a personal spiritual reformation of sorts. I undertook a good deal of religious study across many belief systems and solidified my core testimony of my LDS faith. It was on the heels of this that I became a mother for the first time. My philosophy as a mom pushed me more into conservative territory and I really felt like I identified myself as a Republican for the first time. Unfortunately, I have never been happy with any Republican presidential nominee. I find it really distressing that I enter the voting booth having to hold my nose and vote for someone based on the fact that I consider them the least repugnant choice. Feeling so disenfranchised has made me reexamine my political views over the years, which brings me to where I am today as a defiant libertarian.<br />
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What this means for me is that individual freedom is paramount. Agency is the gold standard. Laws should protect liberty rather than take it away. I do not believe in a paternalistic government that imposes a standard of conduct on my personal behavior. I should have the freedom to fail and to do so spectacularly if I choose. I believe you should have that freedom, too, but that I should not be compelled to subsidize your behavior and protect you from whatever negative consequences may arise from it. I do not believe the government has the right to take my money by compulsory taxation and spend it on other people, no matter how noble the cause. Morally I believe I am obligated to take care of those less fortunate than me and do not feel I should abdicate that obligation to the government. I believe in a free and unfettered market in which big companies are allowed to fail, small companies are free to flourish, and the consumer's wallet is the only regulator. I believe that I have the right to own a gun without having to account for it to the government. I believe in individual responsibility and accountability and that generosity and morality cannot be legislated.Jenniferhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17978824563535846688noreply@blogger.com5